I Don’t Want Kids, and I’m OK With That…

I Don’t Want Kids, and I’m OK With That…

I had the pleasure of meeting women over the last past few months that straight up, did NOT want kids, and I respected that. We ended up talking about the strange looks that people give them when they said that they didn’t want them. Whether it was because they helped raised their brothers and sisters for their childhood, or see such a crazy place this world is right now, and opted not to bring a little one in this craziness, and I respect it! Not everyone wants the same thing, and you just have to deal with the fact that not every woman wants to have a child, it’s not selfish, it’s admirable to me. I reached out to multiple women afterwards and here’s what they have to say about having no kids.

  1. Jamie Hectus, 32
  2. Hospitality Manager and Life/Leadership Coach
  3. One brother and two step-sisters
  4. I honestly have said that I don’t want kids since I was in high school.  It’s kind of funny because I love other people’s children, but man do kids stress me out. I have found that being Auntie Jamie or Coach Jamie to a lot of kids is more beneficial to the world than me being a mom. Now that doesn’t make sense for a lot of people and I hear all the time, “But you’ll be such a GREAT mom! Your babies will be amazing!”. Now I don’t doubt that statement at all but I would rather be a mentor, support system or teacher to thousands of kids because if I can impact one child in a way that helps them feel loved, worthy and unstoppable, then why wouldn’t I do that for as many kids as I can? For me it makes the most sense and the biggest impact.
  1. Alice Anderson, 37
  2. Graphic Designer
  3. No brothers or sisters
  4.  While I loved playing with dolls and playing school, I never really had a strong desire for children. It was assumed, as it is so often, that I would have kids. When my husband and I got together (during my late teens) we agreed that we didn’t want children and that’s never changed. It’s so nice to be on the same page, especially on this issue. 
  1. Heather Patterson, 42
  2. Entrepreneur
  3. Three sisters and two brothers
  4. I love being Aunt Heather, and I spoil all my nieces and nephews whenever I can. I’ve been married to my husband for 10 years now and we both decided that we didn’t want any children in our twenties. We love spending time together, love traveling, love our dogs, and just simply don’t want all the responsibility for children, our dogs are enough for us! We have three dogs, and fish…..we like being able to get up and go, hiring a dog sitter and not feeling bad about leaving a child behind. Some people call us selfish, but we think that it’s better for us to decide that we don’t want kids now instead of bringing a child into this world and then thinking,”This doesn’t work for us…” We see all the struggles from our siblings being parents, and we would rather be the amazing Aunt and Uncle!
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